Friday, February 24, 2012

Have you "huggled" today?

Welcome to the February edition of the Authentic Parenting Blog Carnival, hosted by Authentic Parenting and Mudpiemama. This month, participants have looked into the topic of “Fostering Healthy Attachment.” Please scroll down to the end of this post to find a list of links to the entries of the other participants. Enjoy!

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I give lots of "huggles," our family's fun word for hugs and snuggles. I always find that these huggles make everyone happier, calmer.

If I am having a rough mothering day, a day when the kids and I are particularly ornery, it's often because huggles are conspicuously absent. If I take a moment to stop, to notice, and then to bring my little ones closer, the mood changes, the day brightens, and we can move forward more peacefully.

Magic, I tell you, these huggles.

Or is it?

It turns out, maybe it's just chemistry. We know the "love hormone," oxytocin, fosters attachment with moms and new babies, and is also the hormone released during labor, breastfeeding, and sex. It brings people together, bonds them, makes them happier, more connected. It's profound, really, how something like a simple touch, a single display of affection, can alter our dispositions and transform a "bad" day into a better one.

These huggles are without question my best mothering trick. And they feel good too.

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7 comments:

  1. I have never thought about the science behind why hugging/wrestling can instantly brighten our days - thank you for making that connection!!

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  2. relevant to my life as always! I needed that reminder today. I've also noticed (and had it backed up by my reading) that kids with sensory issues always benefit from hugs. When my little one is getting crazy I tell her to give me a big hug. I squeeze a little harder than normal and I can feel the air/tension release from her body. She is always calmer after that. I've learned that it is one way to give her the sensory "input" she needs (all kids need really, but some kids just need a little more.) Plus the added benefits I get from it :)

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    1. Thanks, Leigh. Good point about sensory issues. In that way, hugs help not only from the oxytocin perspective but also to calm our little ones' undeveloped nervous systems.

      I think all the links are now working!

      -Kerry

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  3. A few of the links aren't working.

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  4. love the word huggles :) we too love some hugs and snuggles here as a way to calm down, get happy etc!

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